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This will be information on the Bowes family.
I am trying to update this page. It was started about a year ago when I was in MN.

My parents both grew up in Fredericksburg, VA, and had known each other throughout childhood, They attended school together and graduated from High School in the same class. My mother was Louise Southerland Bowes, and my father Paul Emanuel Bowes. They were both born in 1910. My father in August, my mother in June. My father's father was Frederick Douglas Bowes. He was born in Washington, DC around 1863. His mother had been a slave on a plantation called Sudley House in Maryland. The story is that she ran away when she was 7 months pregnant with grandpoppa so he could be born in DC, and born free. DC was a free area, Maryland was not. Her name was Nancy. The Sudley Plantation was owned by the Johns family. The same ones associated with Johns-Hopkins University. The place still exists as a Maryland Historical Landmark. My cousin Maurice Norbrey told me that his mother, my father's older sister told him that Grandpoppa's father was a Dr. Johns. who was a dentist. His sisters had kept in touch with the family. He said his mother remembers getting Christmas presents from them when she was young. My grandmomma was Margaret Hailstalk. I found their marriage certificate on the intenet via Ancestry.com. Will try to find it and include it later on. My mother's father was David Southerland. Her mother Leslie Hailstalk. He father came from North Carolina to the Fredericksburg area. They lived in an area called Mayfield. I remember my mother's father had a farm that seemed to me very huge. My sister and I picked tomatoes and ate them on the porch. We also took turns in churning butter and ice cream. My mother's father kept hogs! It was a big deal for sister Margaret and I to ride on the back of the truck when he took large cans of garbage to feed the hogs. They were monstrous. When my parents married, they lived for a time with my grandfather at 1310 Charles Street in Fredericksburg, VA. My father was a teacher and a school principal. He'd graduated from Howard University and then had a Masters Degree from Columbia University. My mother to college at Normal School in Washington DC. It was a teaching college, and she taught until she was expecting sister Margaret. In 1936 women were not allowed to teach if they were pregnant. My fathe told me that his first job paid $30.00 a month plus room and board. I have found memories of living at 1310 Charles Street with my father's father. I was very sad when we moved to Newport News where our father had a new job. Our mother later said she was glad to get out of that house and have her own home. I understood this after I was an adult. My sister Margaret and I sometimes talk about the things we remember about Fredericksburg. I never saw my father's mother. I think she died before I was born. I read that she was had been a teacher, and had died suddenly when she was in her 60s. I saw a photo of her, and she looked a bit like my sister Margaret. I don't remember seeing my mother's mother, but remember going over to Mayfield with my sister Margaret and our mother when her mother was ill. I remember being on the back porch of the house in Mayfield, and someone chipping ice from a large block to put in an ice bag for grandmomma's forehead. My sister Margaret remembers her. She said she remembers she had a long braid that came all the way down her back. I do remember later on walking with my mother's father in the cemetery. He was holding my hand, and in his other hand had a bunch of flowers for her grave. I might have been 4 or 5. I didn't understand death. I think this was at the Old Site or New Site Church. At one of the churches there was a stain glass window that my grandpoppa gave to the church. Will have to check.

 

About the family: Now

Sister Margaret is in CA with her 3 children. Her husband William Pitts died March 24, 2000. They had been married for 33 years. The children are Barbara, William and Charlie. Barbara married David Bickham and they have one son, Daniel, who is now 8 years old. Barbara has a degree in Computer Science and an MS in Software Engineering. William graduated from Hampton University in Political Science, and had begun attending Law School. Charlie's degree is in Psychology from U of CA San Diego. He also has completed his Masters. Elleni and I went out to visit her this past August. Shields in still working in Cleveland in the school system, as is her husband Edward Harrison. One of her daughters got married this past June. The others are living in NYC and in Texas. Elleni graduated from the U of MN. Her degree was in Studio Arts. She's been working for the U of MN since her graduation. She does computer support. Both of Paul's children are in college. His wife Betty is a teacher.

I am visiting Elleni in MN. Her father was visiting the week before, and is about to return to Ethiopia in January 2003.

Growing Up in Virginia

1310 Charles Street

My Uncle Douglas Bowes, Aunt Marion Bowes, Aunt Nanny Bowes Norbrey, Uncle Bumpsey Norbrey, Eyah (Evelyn) all lived in the neighborhood of Charles Street. Out of all the children of my father's father, only my father and his sister Aunt Nanny had children. She had 2, Maurice and Millicent. Mr. Henry lived next door and was the owner of a funeral home across the street. My sister Margaret and I were both born in the upstairs bedroom of 1310 Charles Street. I remember my sister and I mostly playing and burying "treasure" in the backyard, which we never found. I think there was a grapevine and some other fruit trees. I'd sit with my grandpoppa early in the morning in the kitchen facing the backyard as he had a tiny glass of sherry "for medicinal purposes". He would give me one sip. I might have been 5 years old. Mother let me go next door to Mrs. Henry's to get my hair combed, because I made such a fuss when she did it. Eyah came down on Sundays and played the piano and sang very lowdly. I think she was a cousin of my grandpoppa. She was very light-skinned. My mother told me that she'd been a piano player for the silent movies in PA. I don't think the people at the theater knew she was Black. Her last name was Scott. She lived alone at the house on the corner of Charles Street. She did washing and her house always smelled of clorox. I think that's why I like to use clorox now. It reminds me of Eyah. I think I went to visit her everyday. I think when she came to 1310 on Sundays she bring a big bowl of tapioca pudding which was left to cool on top of the ice box. My father's other sister Aunt Mary lived in New Bern, NC. Aunt Mary taught French. She'd gone to Paris and studied at the Sorbonne. I remember her as being very kind. We went to visit her one summer in New Bern. We went to beaches that had the purest, whitest sand. He husband was also a teacher. My father's brother Charlie lived in Washington, DC, and had been a merchant seaman. I saw him when I moved to DC to work. It was probably 1960 or 1961 and he was dying. I went to the hospital to see him and he called me by my sister's name, and thanked me for coming to see him. My mother's father said the same when he was ill and I visited him. I don't know why. There was one brother John who had died in a fire in Philadelphia. He might have been the oldest son. Someone said he was a fireman. I never knew him. There is a photograph that was taken before August 1910. It shows my grandpoppa, his wife, her sister and his mother and Aunts Mary and Nancy (Nanny) and all three brothers. I know this was before August 1910, because I asked my mother why my father was not tin the photo, and she said it was because he hadn't been born yet. I asked her who was the little old dark lady in the photo, and she said that it was my father's grandmother and she'd been a slave. It wasn't until later that my father told me his father had showed him a picture of Sudley Mannor/Home/Plantation, and had said something like this was the home of his ancestors. Mr. Grant, who was my grandpoppa's brother-in-law (they married sisters) wrote the story in a notebook meant for his children about Great-Grandmomma Nancy running away from that plantation.

We moved to Newport News, VA and lived on Madison Avenue until our parents purchased the house at 1237 28th Street. We went to John Marshall Elementary School and Huntington High School. We all went to different colleges, and all graduated. My major was Graphic Arts, Margaret's Architectural Engineering, Shield's was Education, Paul's was Music.

 

Some Favorite Things

Talking to my CA sister. Shopping ONLINE. E-mailing my Daughter. Visiting my daughter's website. Having a good cup of tea or coffee. Reading my online newsletters. Looking at SCIFI movies. Listening to audiobooks. Going to the Library. Planting veggies and flowers in big pots. Helping the indoor plants survive by putting them outside in the spring.

 

My Favorite Links

elleni.com (of course)
Progressive Review
Counterpunch
Drudge.com

 

Some Pictures

Elleni's baptisim
Elleni by Mom
MY FATHER
BROTHER PAUL BOWES

AUNT MARY BOWES
MOM AND DAD
ME AND SHIELDS
MARGARET AND DAUGHTER

MARGARET BOWES PITTS
ME AT DMA
BILLY PITTS
MOM, DAD AND SISTER

DAD WITH GRANDCHILDREN
DAD, BILLY, MARGARET
SISTER MARGARET
XMAS IN DC 1971

GRANDPOPPA >1910
MOM, DAD, GRANDS
MOM, DAD, THE BOONES
SHIELDS WITH CHILDREN

SUMMER IN NN,VA
ME. WITH SIBLINGS
AT PENN AVE SE HOUSE
ME AND ELLENI

MOM AND HER SISTERS
ELLENI AT 1237 28TH
ELLENI'S AUNT KASSECH
KASSECH

ELLENI AT 3613 24TH
MOM'S SIBLINGS
ELLENI AND LESLIE
ELLENI AND LESLIE

THE HARRISONS
MOM AND SISTERS
ELLENI AT 3613 24TH
XMAS AT PENN AVE

ME AND BOBBY CHEEKS
Elleni's Dad

 


 

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